We attended a presentation on forgiveness yesterday. One of the significant points was that when there is an old hurt or grudge that we have difficulty forgiving, it is helpful to remember that each time we focus on it and remember it, we are tearing off the healing scab. Each time we rehearse the incident and relive the pain and the anger, we let the incident continue to have its power.
Learning to shift those thoughts takes a very long time. It is so easy to blame the hurts of the past for our behavior in the present. Taking responsibility for the choices we make NOW, taking responsibility for who we are NOW can be a day to day challenge.
Desmond Tutu says that when we forgive we are no longer the victim...we can write the end of the story.
Can you begin to replace the old rehearsal of past grudges and anger with new thoughts of who you want to be NOW? Who do you think God wants you to be?
Blessings-Penny
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