second question

As a therapist and as a person interested in other people's lives, I have learned it's important to "ask the second question." By that I mean that we often ask friends, family, new acquaintances such questions as, "How are you?" or even "What's happening?" They may tell us the facts and give us a response to that question. But to really learn about that person and what's important to them, it's important to ask "the second question?" So once they have responded to that first question, you might ask the seceond question such as "What does that mean for you?" or "How does that impact you?" Then we get to hear not only "the facts" but also the meaning behind the facts. We get to hear what their heart is saying.

In the last blog, I asked you if you feel God transforming you in your recovery. The second question and even the third might be: "How do you feel that transformation?" "What difference do you feel in your life as you become aware of God's grace, God's promise, and God's gift of recovery?"

It seems to me those are really important questions to continue to ask ourselves as we are transformed by God's miracle.

Blessings-Penny