So often when we hear of someone's crisis, a crisis such as an illness, an accident, a job loss or a family death, it is difficult to pick up the phone and call them. We'd rather send a quick email or text. We want to let them know we are thinking of them but we "don't want to bother them." At least that's what we tell ourselves---and that's how we maintain a comfortable distance. We fear we won't know what to say. We are afraid we will cause them more pain---"maybe they are doing alright at this moment and if I call I'll only remind them."
My husband, who has a gentle soul and a pastor's heart, received news of the death of a long time friend this week. Within a couple of hours he was phoning the man's wife. They talked about old times. They talked about the friend's illness. They talked about how she was doing---her children, her sadness, her spiritual place. He had no hesitation about phoning her. He knew in his heart he wouldn't be "bothering her." He knew in his soul she could use his comfort.
Another lesson for me. Don't procrastinate. Ask the second question---don't just hit the surface feelings. Ask, "how is that for you?...what are the things you miss?"
That is what community means. Reaching out---touching. Holding someone-even from a distance.
For those of us who are believers, it is "the kingdom of God on earth."
How's your community? How is "the kingdom of God" in your place on earth?
Blessings-Penny
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