One of our relatives who has the disease of addictions called last night. (There are several but he is the one who phones.) He relapsed-again- and this time his wife left him. They have grown children and even a new grand baby, so this relative is not a kid. He has been challenged with this disease for a long time. We do not know the wife's side of the story but my sense is she probably has a lot of emotions-anger, sadness, frustration. He has the same emotions and their communication is not healthy. She says she will move back "when it is right."
In our conversation we encouraged him to ask her the question, "What will that look like-when things are right?" For both of them they need to begin a discussion of what "right" is. We encouraged them to get into marriage counseling where discussions like this can happen in a safe environment. Sadly so often, when we try to have these conversations in early recovery, the mutual anger, sadness and frustration do not let us have productive conversations.
And as I thought of this "what will right look like" I thought of all of us who want a change in our lives. For those of us who want to have a more active spiritual lives-a deeper relationship with God-"what will that look like?--when will we know when it is right?"
Blessings-Penny
Your article is thought provoking. What will right look like? I have been struggling with so many responsibilities, wondering when I can go back to school, when will the time be right? wanting a healthier relationship with my family members, so what will that look like? Thank you, I am so glad I found you blog.
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