friends

While living in Vermont, I was a member of a woman's group that met monthly. It was a group organized by a close friend with the primary purpose of mutual support. We took turns talking without interrupting each other. Giving advice and offering solutions to each other's issues was frowned upon. We shared our similar experiences but none expected to give or receive answers to the issues we shared. We simply wanted to be heard--have a place to express our thoughts and feelings.

Often the conversations centered on relationships---relationships with adult children, daughters and sons-in-law, colleagues, husbands. After all we were women and relationships form our core. Of course, there was the understanding that what was shared there, remained there.

I have missed the group and was delighted when a new friend here in Las Vegas suggested we form a similar group. We met for the first time yesterday. It was lovely. We were a small group. We talked of asking others to join and talked of the need to be secure in other's respect for confidentiality. We need to ask women with whom we can be totally honest. We need to not have to edit what we share.

And the level of honesty simply flowed. Sometimes we asked the second question. Sometimes we clarified. We laughed. We talked of wanting to live our lives making a difference, having some fun, fulfilling our goals.

I truly believe all of us need this kind of friendship, this level of trust---a place where we can be authentic--risk sharing "secret" thoughts and dreams. I think women need this more than men, but I also believe men benefit from trusting friendships. We need to place those thoughts that keep rolling around in our heads in front of others. Having a small group means those thoughts are shared--we are heard by others.

I also believe we can have this "authentic" relationship with God. It's called prayer. We talk. We are heard. It is His promise.

Do you have a special group with whom to share HONESTLY? Do you see the group as a gift from God?---a place He wants you reduce stress, have friends. Do you also take those thoughts and concerns to God?

Blessings-Penny